Relationships 101 - Dr. Beth Erickson

Relationships 101 – Adult Attachment Styles and Marital Conflict, and When a Beloved Brother Dies

billschiffler — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:44:29 +0000

Dr. Beth’s (www.drbetherickson.com) first guest was Dr. Amir Levine (www.attachedthe book.com) who co-authored the book Attached that looks at the influence of attachment styles learned in childhood on couple relationships. Then she spoke with Emily Beaver (www.emilycbeaver.com) about the untimely death of her beloved brother who died at age 17 when Emily was 14. Her book is Slipping Reality, and her wisdom about recovering from a profound loss is uncommon for a teenager.

Relationships 101 – Updating Your Job Search Strategy, and Networking Singles

billschiffler — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 05:01:18 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) first spoke with Ginny Clarke (www. mycareermapping.com) about her inspiring book called Career Mapping. Her strategies go far beyond writing a résumé and pounding the streets. They empower. Then she spoke with radio host John Holt and matchmaker (www.tri-stateservices.com) about how singles can empower themselves to get out of their own way and succeed in finding a life partner.

Relationships 101 – Recovering from Quadriplegia, and Conversation Is Sexy

billschiffler — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 22:39:15 +0000

Dr. Beth’s (www.drbetherickson.com) first guest is Doug Smith (www.dougsmithperformance) who was an NHL first round draft pick whose hockey career ended when he hit the boards head on at full speed, thus making him a quadriplegic. He wrote Full Performance about his journey. Then she spoke with Todd Reed (www.conversationissexy.com) about how to deepen conversational intimacy as a prelude to a spiritual and soul connection that is a prelude to deeply satisfying sex. They also talked about roadblocks to satisfying sex.

Relationships 101 – Integrating an All-White School, & Successful Entrepreneurship

billschiffler — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 16:38:49 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) interviewed E.D. Arrington (www.edarringtonauthor.com), author of Stay the Course, about the pain of feeling invisible when she integrated an all-white high school in rural North Carolina in the 1960s. Then she interviewed James Rick (www.fullpotential.com) about secrets of successful entrepreneurship. This was an especially important conversation in that it is small businesses that are slated to life our country out of its economic recession.

Relationships 101 – Someone Else’s Twin, and Explaining Unhappiness

billschiffler — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 15:45:07 +0000

Unhappiness Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) spoke first with Dr. Nancy Segal (www.drnancysegal.com) about her work on twins that spans three decades. Her newly released book is Someone Else’s Twin which discusses twins who were switched at birth. She has traveled the world to interview them and their families. Next, she spoke with psychotherapist Peter Spinogatti author of Explaining Unhappiness, about helping people see how illogical thoughts too often control their lives. Then he helps his patients make a different and better choice (www.dissolvingunhappiness.com).

Relationships 101 – Body Traders, and Boys Coming of Age

billschiffler — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 04:18:42 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) spoke first with Bruce Starr (www.luvcoach.com), author of Body Traders and former AOL love coach about how people look for love in all the wrong places, and then they give up in despair. We spoke about options short of giving up. Then she spoke with Joe Lunievicz (www.lunievicz.com) about his coming of age first novel called Open Wounds.The main character’s mother died in childbirth with him. It is a story focusing on the hyper-masculine way boys without fathers in their lives grow up.

Relationships 101 – Attachment Styles, and Male Victims of Domestic Violence

billschiffler — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 05:01:28 +0000

Violence Dr. Steve Olivas discussed how the quality of people’s emotional attachment to their parents in childhood has a profound impact on the health of the intimate relationships they develop as adults. Then researcher Dr. Denise Hines discussed her findings that demonstrate that Intimate Terrorism is not limited just to women. Many men are indeed abused physically and emotionally by their spouse. Unfortunately, it is more common than is typically thought.

Relationships 101 – Triumphing Over One Crisis after the Other, and Meet to Marry

billschiffler — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 05:01:23 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) first spoke with Terry Jones-Brady (www.terryjones-brady.com), author of A Mosaic Heart. Terry began to write as a way to deal with the heartache that life gave her when her children were born with the inherited and ultimately fatal disease cystic fibrosis and her husband’s subsequent suicide under the weight of it. Then she spoke with Bari Lyman (www.meettomarry.com), author of Meet to Marry, about her 3-step program to help single people take charge of dating and find ”the one.”

Relationships 101 – Life for Poor Folks, and Creating a Calm Home

billschiffler — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 05:01:38 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) first spoke with Joe Schwartz, author of The Games Men Play, which is a collection of 21 short stories about the day-to-day life of America’s lower class workers. It is written in a man’s, and it appeals to men. It truly is about how the other half lives. Then she spoke with Erin Munroe (www.erinamunroe.com) about what it takes to create a calm home, and the effects of a calm, rather than a chaotic, home. Calm homes require structure and organization. Erin can tell by observing her students which ones come from a calm home, and which don’t.

Relationships 101 – “Nancy Grayson Beckerman and Bruce Cameron”

billschiffler — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 05:01:16 +0000

The theme of both segments of this week’s show is recovery from loss. Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) first spoke with Nancy Grayson Beckerman, author of Out of Time, a memoir about her journey with her husband through his cancer diagnosis and beyond, as she redefined her life as a single woman. Then she spoke with New York Times bestselling author, Bruce Cameron, (wbrucecameron.com) about his new book, the recently-released Emory’s Gift. It is the story of a 13-year-old boy’s grief and recovery following his beloved mother’s death from cancer.

Relationships 101 – Developing Mental Toughness, and First Love, First Loss Dr. Beth

billschiffler — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 05:01:56 +0000

Loss Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) first spoke with Mental Toughness coach, Dr. Jason Selk (www.jasonselk.com) about his newest book Executive Toughness. He was the performance coach for the 2006 and 2011 St. Louis Cardinals in their wins of the World Series. Then she spoke with Deborah Chamberlain (www.orangepicnic.com), author of Orange Picnic about her first love as a teenager and about her intense grief when he committed suicide rather than being drafted into the Viet Nam War.

Relationships 101 – Pedophiles and Sex Traffickers, & A Twinless Twin

billschiffler — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 18:35:00 +0000

Twin Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) spoke with Marie Crist (www.mariecrist.com), author of the novel Citizen Out, which is about pedophiles and child sex traffickers. They decried the small movement to decriminalize and normalize pedophilia, and talked about how parents can protect their children from this scourge. Then she spoke with Tamara Jackson about her twin brother having died in childbirth, and how she misses him and communicates with him regularly. This was a very touching conversation.

Relationships 101 – Ambitious Women, and Surviving a Heart Attack and a Stroke

billschiffler — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 05:01:00 +0000

Dr. Beth’s (www.drbetherickson.com) first guest was Dr. Debra Condren (www.AmbitionIs NotaDirtyWord.com), author of a book by that name who talked with her about why ambitious women are criticized for following their career goals while men are called go-getters. They also talked about the pay disparity between the sexes and women’s self-limitations. Then she talked with Howard Kay (www.trumpnetwork.com) about his having survived two life-threatening illnesses and how his passion now is informing people about these precarious conditions.

Relationships 101 – Does He Cheat? and Smarter Dating

billschiffler — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 05:02:40 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) first spoke with Hollywood screenwriter and Recovering Cheater, Sterling Anderson (www.doeshecheatthebook.com)about the book he and Stephanie Dart wrote based on interviews of 50 cheaters called Does He Cheat? Their primary purpose in writing the book was to empower women to open their eyes. Then she spoke with Dr. Joe Amoia (www.smarterdatingforwomen.com), author of the E-book The ABCs of Smarter Dating about how to zero in and find the type of man she wants, rather than believing there are no good men left.

Relationships 101 – Job Search Advice for Newly-Minted College Grads, & Communing with Your Unborn Child

billschiffler — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 17:05:13 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetheric kson.com) first had a nuts-and-bolts conversation with Michelle Riklan (www.Riklan Resources.com) about how new college grads can stand out from the herd when job searching in this tight economy. Then she spoke with Scott Blum (www.www.scottblum.net), author of Winter Moon Rises about the journey toward becoming a parent by communicating with your unborn child long before s/he is born.

Relationships 101 – Having a Chronically Ill Sibling, and Overscheduled Kids

billschiffler — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 17:31:16 +0000

Dr. Beth (drbetherickson.com) first spoke with Heather Cariou (sixtyfiverosesthebook.com), author of Sixty-Five Roses: A Sister’s Memoir, about the challenges of growing up with both a sister and a brother with Cystic Fibrosis. Heather clearly had to grow up too fast for her own good. Then she spoke with R.T. (Willie) Willard who retired after teaching in middle school for 35 years about this question: Are Our Kids Overscheduled Today? Dr. Beth offered some guidelines for parents to consider in making decisions about kids’ extracurricular activities.

Relationships 101 – How 9/11 Changed America and Americans, and Conversation with an American Muslim

billschiffler — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 18:53:29 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) did one of her famous Chalk Talks about the residue of fear and even paranoia that is now prevalent in our country after the attacks on 9/11. Although it a natural human tendency to fear the other, it has been heightened to near hysteria in the U.S. I then spoke with novelist and American Muslim, M. Salahuddin Khan (mskhan@sikanderthebook.com) about the scenes of everyday life in Pakistan and Afghanistan that he portrayed in his novel, in order to bridge the gap between our two cultures.

Relationships 101 – Narcissist-Codependent Dance, and Causes of Addictions Revisited

billschiffler — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 04:01:18 +0000

Dr. Beth’s (www.DrBethErickson.com) first guest is Darlene Lancer (www.darlenelancer.com) whose area of expertise is codependence. People who are codependent have little sense of self, and the narcissist is full of him/herself, making the classic relationship dynamic. Then she spoke with Kristen Moeller (www.kristenmoeller.com) about the new findings on the causes of addiction newly released by physicians who specialize in the treatment of addictions, the American Society of Addiction Medicine. It is neurology and not lack of will power that fuels addictions.

Relationships 101 – Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, and Emotionally Abusive, Narcissistic Fathers

billschiffler — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 14:41:58 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) spoke first with Stephanie Roth (www.leapfrogconnections.com), the daughter of a highly narcissistic mother whose parenting matched the typical traits of that disorder, leaving her child feeling empty, unloved, and unloveable. Next, she spoke with D.H. Cermeno (http://www.risingsunsets.com), author of Rising Sunsets, about the emotional abuse he suffered from his narcissistic father who made him feel never good enough.

Relationships 101 – Marrying a Narcissist, and What Makes a Successful Entrepreneur

billschiffler — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 14:14:16 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) interviewed Crystal Clancy (www.crystalclancy.weebly.com) for the second in a four-part series on narcissism. Crystal spend 4 years with a narcissist, became engaged, but broke it off before disaster ensued and she married and had children with him. Then I spoke with Valerie Lothian (www.internettrafficlistbuilding.co.uk) about her work as a mentor and coach of budding entrepreneurs. We shared our personal stories of becoming entrepreneurs and discussed what traits and processes are necessary to succeed.

Relationships 101 – Married to a Narcissist, and Incarcerated Youth

billschiffler — Mon, 29 Aug 2011 15:55:59 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) first interviewed Marlene Landrum who has been married to a narcissist for sixteen years. Her experience was a springboard to help listeners define a narcissist, to talk about what being married to a narcissist is like, the primary dynamic between a narcissist and his codependent partner, and how to leave a narcissist. Then I spoke with Charmaine Hammond (www.hammondgroup.biz) about her work with incarcerated youth, how the U.S. incarcerates the most prisoners of any country, and why.

Relationships 101 – What Makes a Happy Marriage, & Three Additional Ingredients of a Happy Marriage

billschiffler — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 04:01:39 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) first interviewed family studies researcher Dr. Peter Larson (www.prepare-enrich.com), co-author of The Couple Checkup, on some of the 15 to 20 abilities that couples in happy marriages possess that make them successful, compared with unhappy couples. Then Dr. Beth elaborated on remaining three factors that time didn’t permit her and her guest to discuss: conflict, consumerism, and sex. In both segments, she and Dr. Larson stressed that a happy marriage is the best gift parents can give their children, and child-centered couples jeopardize their marriage and their child’s happiness.

Relationships 101 – Mistaken for ADHD, and Being Gay and Black

billschiffler — Mon, 15 Aug 2011 15:33:44 +0000

Dr. Beth Erickson (www.drbetherickson.com) first interviewed Dr. Frank Barnhill, a family physician and author of Mistaken for ADHD, (www.mistakenforadhd.com) about the frequency of misdiagnosis of ADHD in children and teens. Then she spoke with Aaron Anson, (www.aaronanson.com) about his journey to acceptance of his being gay, catalyzed by married Army soldiers hitting on him. His mother’s acceptance of him as a gay man after he came out made all the difference in the world to him. He is the author of Mind Your Own Life.

Relationships 101 – The Transformative Power of A Faith Crisis, and Transformed by Gratitude

billschiffler — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 04:01:51 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) speaks with Dr. Greg Hunt (www.gregorylhunt.com), author of Blackbirds Singing in the Dead of Night. His memoir invites the reader into a pastor’s conversations with a Silent God. Imagine a pastor, plagued by doubts, who’s willing to invite spiritual seekers and skeptics into his private struggles that results in his transformation. Then she spoke with Nina Lesowitz,(www.spinergygroup.com) co-author of The Gratitude Power Workbook about the transformative power of gratitude.

Relationships 101 – Holistic& Integrative Medicine, and People’s Relationship with Money

billschiffler — Mon, 01 Aug 2011 15:37:17 +0000

Money Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) spoke first with physical therapist and author Deborah Howell (www.victoryinaction.com), author of Straight from the Heart, about the power of alternative medicine when combined with traditional Western medicine to heal the mind and the body. Then Pegi Burdick (www.thefinancialwhisperer.com) spoke with her about people’s relationship with money, the seeds of which were planted early in their lives. Pegi believes that people’s difficulty with money management is tied to their emotional impasses.

Relationships 101 – A Danish Family’s Legacy as Members of the Their Country’s Resistance During World War II, and What is a Master Teacher?

billschiffler — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 05:01:43 +0000

Dr. Beth first spoke with Jasmine Tritten about her family’s heroism risking their lives to harbor Jews during the Nazi occupation. We focused on the concept of legacy. Then I spoke with teacher Patty O’Hare about what makes her a master teacher (www.farwellschools.org), her philosophy of education, and how she ignites her students’ interest in science.

Relationships 101 – Why Remarriage Is So Challenging, and a Successfully Remarried Couple

billschiffler — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 05:01:26 +0000

While the divorce rate for college-educated couples in first marriages is inching down to the mid 40%,the divorce rates for second and third marriage are much higher (60-67% of second marriages end in divorce, and 70-73% of couples in third marriages divorce). Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) first did a “chalk talk” on why remarriages can be so challenging. Then she introduced a successfully remarried couple, Terry and Laura Neven, (www.terryneven.com) to share their success secrets, despite his ex’s parental alienation campaign and their having seven children between them.

Relationships 101 – Being Parents of a Drug Addict, and Older Women Dating Younger Men

billschiffler — Mon, 11 Jul 2011 05:01:32 +0000

Dr. Beth (www.DrBethErickson.com) first spoke with Brad DeHaven (www.rxdrugaddict.com), the father of a recovering Oxycontin addict. They spoke about causes of an addict’s drug abuse, and stopping enabling. Next, Hattie Wiener (www.holisticallyhattie.com) spoke about the joys of being a cougar with her cubs (younger men). She needs to be clear on her agenda, her sexuality, and how to work around their developmental differences

Relationships 101 – Building Better Marriages, and Understanding Identity Confusion

billschiffler — Mon, 04 Jul 2011 05:01:40 +0000

First, Dr. Beth Erickson (www.drbetherickson.com) spoke with Dr. Priscilla Hunt (www.bettermarriages.org) and Dr. Greg Hunt who have been successfully married for 35 years. They shared some of their success secrets, the primary ones being to maintain their individuality and learn relationship skills. Then Jackie O’Neal (www.onealmedia@live.com)
shared her struggle with her own identity development because of her family’s and her birth country’s expectation that she deny her Indian and African slave heritage. Their silence inculcated shame and low self-worth in her.

Relationships 101 – Selfishness of Parental Alienation, and Succeeding Against All Odds

billschiffler — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 05:01:24 +0000

Dr. Beth Erickson (www.drbetherickson.com) interviewed well known San Diego family lawyer Michele Lowenstein (www.LowensteinBrown.com) on parental alienation, which is a particularly egregious form of child abuse. Then she spoke with Chitoka Webb (www.chitokawebb.com) about her considerable success despite growing up in the ghetto of Nashville and contracting a rare disease that resulted in blindness. Send your questions to www.AskDrBethErickson.com.

Relationships 101 – Day Sex Solution, and Children of Incarcerated Parents

billschiffler — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 16:23:30 +0000

One of the biggest challenges in a long-term marriage is keeping up the sexual connection couples had when they met. Dr. Victoria Wilson co-authored The 30-Day Sex Solution with her husband, John, to help address this issue. Dr. Yvonne Lutter, Director of Mental Health at a woman’s prison, talked with me about the collateral damage to children and their bonding process when their parents are incarcerated. This is a matter of great urgency for us as a society.

Relationships 101 – Fathers Are Essential for Children’s Welfare

billschiffler — Mon, 13 Jun 2011 05:01:35 +0000

Far too many people think that fathers are superfluous, optional, and disposal, including some fathers themselves. Nothing could be farther from the truth, as my guests discuss. My first guest is Julia Espy, who is the author of If I Were Your Daddy, Here Is What You Would Learn. A single mother herself, she interviewed 35 men seeking their answers. Jim Higley is a full time single father to his three children, a Chicago Tribune columnist, and author of Bobblehead Dad.

Relationships 101 – What Can Happen to Foster Children, and Being Proactive as a New Stepmother

billschiffler — Mon, 06 Jun 2011 22:49:41 +0000

She is the author of The Gray Zone, a novel about how one abused and neglected child survived some potentially devastating situations by using her wits. Then Barb Goldberg, whose blog is The Evil Stepmother Speaks, spoke about how she proactively took charge in her new step family to win her step children over and to blend her family into a cohesive group of four siblings.

Relationships 101 – 053011

billschiffler — Mon, 30 May 2011 05:01:30 +0000

Earlier this month, I interviewed a guest who said he had been depressed his whole life. Today, I will talk with All-American Keshawn Durant who became situationally depressed after an injury required him to quit sports. I will compare and contrast the two. I also spoke with Katherine Kersten, a newspaper columnist, on the growing class marriage gap. Rates of marriage are in precipitous decline for all but college-educated folks, disadvantaging the rest.

Relationships 101 – Surviving Life in a Cult, and Blessings and Challenges of Intermarriage

billschiffler — Sun, 22 May 2011 05:01:15 +0000

Joan Miller, author of The Transformation of Joan Faith, talked about having been reared in a cult, and what it was like to extricate herself from its clutches. It was a harrowing process. Then Gerald Fierst, a Civil Celebrant and author of The Heart of the Wedding, talked about presiding over intermarriages in his work, as well as about his own intermarriage and that of his son. What makes intermarriages work? What are its blessings and challenges?

Relationships 101 – Launching Adult Kids, and “Landing” Mr. Right

billschiffler — Fri, 20 May 2011 04:34:55 +0000

Patricia Harmon, author of Arms Wide Open, shared her sadness and joy in her three young adult sons developing their own lives and leaving home. Nothing would ever be the same again after they left home. We talked about how to grieve their absence without hanging on. Then I spoke with Vanessa Taylor, author of the dating book Text. Love. Power. which focuses on the new rules for 21st century dating. Her approach cautions women against not playing hard to get.

Relationships 101 – Inconceivable

billschiffler — Mon, 09 May 2011 14:41:47 +0000

Because of a medical mistake, Carolyn and Sean Savage became the parents of a child who wasn’t theirs to keep. They had had their previous child using in vitro fertilization, so once again they turned to medical science for help. Only something went horribly wrong. Carolyn was implanted with another couple’s egg. Their saga was heart wrenching, their journey through this unprecedented passage to parenthood forced them to confront every value they had about family and the sanctity of human life.

Relationships 101 – 050211

billschiffler — Mon, 02 May 2011 15:09:48 +0000

Dick Sederquist, author of Hiking Out, spoke with me about his lifelong depression and how he has healed from it, with self-help and the assistance of a psychiatrist and a psychologist. Now he volunteers at a medium security prison to help inmates with their depression, addiction, and the endless cycle of recidivism. Then I went into greater depth about depression, its causes, cures, risks of suicide and how to recognize the danger signs of severe suicide risk. I stressed the need to get professional help.

Relationships 101 – Trust in Business, and Facing Retirement

billschiffler — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 14:45:09 +0000

Building trust in business is as important as trust building is at home. Jim Villwock, author of Trusted Relationships, knows first hand from his years inside large corporations as well as from his own business. Then retirement isn’t just for people 65 or older. Many of today’s workers 50 and up are being forced into retirement because of today’s economy. Joan and Don Brown talked about how they managed the inevitable shifts in their relationship as they transitioned into retirement.

Relationships 101 – Boomerang Kids, and When a Child Dies

billschiffler — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 14:11:11 +0000

Marie Gordon has a boomerang kid because her 27 year-old son was seriously injured and bedridden for a year. I suggested the myriad feelings her son inevitably must experience that cause him to act out his anger, disappointment, lostness, rejection, and hopelessness. Maria Malin talked with me about her 11 year-old son’s death eight years ago and strategies she used to heal and milestones in her recovery process. She is the author of When You Just Can’t Let Go, Don’t.

Relationships 101 – Fuel for Addictions, and the Sandwich Generation

billschiffler — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 17:51:42 +0000

Rocky Barretto and Trevor Patience, both addicts in recovery, spoke about their fractured childhoods that left them isolated and lonely, which became major contributors to their addiction to drugs of all kinds. Then Grammy-nominated singer/songwriter Karen Taylor-Good sang and spoke about being part of the sandwich generation stuck in the middle of caring for her 95-year old mother and her adolescent daughter when both needed her care. Her music is inspiring.

Relationships 101 – Collaboration, and Forgiveness

billschiffler — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 16:50:36 +0000

Patty DeDominic is a successful entrepreneur who built her businesses on collaboration within organizations and with other outside professionals. Synergy results when professionals network and collaborate with each other. Mary R. Bailey then spoke with me about her struggles to forgive her daughter-in-law whom she saw as responsible for the unraveling of her family. When she realized she was being held prisoner by her hatred of this young woman, she had to make amends.

Relationships 101 – Recovering from Trauma, and Increasing your Happiness Quotient

billschiffler — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 14:10:02 +0000

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) occurs when people experience a traumatic event, as Jim Tritten did. He was piloting a plane back to an aircraft carrier when it crashed. Learn the markers of PTSD and how it affects intimate relationships. Then Murray Grossan, M.D. talked about empowering people to be their own healers. His book Stressed? Anxiety? Your Cure Is in the Mirror is an encyclopedia of suggestions helping people to be well and happy.

Relationships 101 – Epiphanies, and Apologies

billschiffler — Mon, 21 Mar 2011 16:17:06 +0000

Elise Ballard and I talked about interviews she has done with over 50 movers and shakers and some lesser knowns to learn about their epiphanies, which is a sudden burst of insight that transforms people’s lives in an instant. She is the author of Epiphany. Then I spoke with Sheila Quinn Simpson, author of Apology. We considered the advantages of apologizing irrespective of whether others accepts it, how apologies differ from forgiveness, and how the abused need an apology from their abuser.

Relationships 101 – Prediction of a Murder-Suicide, and Post-Divorce From Hell

billschiffler — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 05:01:54 +0000

Sheila Lowe is a handwriting analyst who predicted her daughter’s new boyfriend would be a danger to her. Nine months later, both daughter and boyfriend were dead, and his handwriting foretold the tale. Barbara Reed has been divorced many years and still her ex finds excuses to take her back to court. How has she defended himself from his intrusion into her parenting? Is there a way to avoid being under the lion’s paw with him? What advice does she have for others?

Relationships 101 – Being Ready for a Relationship, and Final Drive

billschiffler — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 18:52:12 +0000

Marla Martenson, a Beverly Hills matchmaker and author of Excuse Me Your Soul Mate Is Waiting, and I discussed how to attract an appropriate relationship and how to tell if you are ready for one. Then I spoke with Shelly Hess whose memoir is called Final Drive about how she was able to find transcendent meaning in her husband’s sudden decision to divorce and his death in a motorcycle accident only 45 days later. She demonstrates great courage and wisdom.

Relationships 101 – Secret Side of Anger, and Great Relationships Begin Within

billschiffler — Mon, 28 Feb 2011 05:01:59 +0000

Janet Pfeiffer, author of The Secret Side of Anger joined me to discuss the differences between assertion, aggression, and passive aggression. We also discussed how anger is easily prostituted when it substitutes for more vulnerable emotions. Maryanne Comaroto and I then discussed the central importance of introspection and self-reflection for preparing to be in an intimate relationship with anyone else. Avoiding this guarantees another failure.

Relationships 101 – Secrets of the Teenage Brain, Travel Log of Newfoundland, Secrets for Finding Love

billschiffler — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 05:01:42 +0000

Dr. Sheryl Finestein, author of Secrets of the Teenage Brain, talked with me about how teenagers’ brains are different from the adults they are going to become or the children they have been. Parents of teens and educators are urged to listen to this segment. Then I spoke with Carol Barrett about her native province of Newfoundland and about her book The Secret Guide to Finding Love about attracting the right mate.

Relationships 101 – Pernicious Addictions, and When an Infant’s Mother Dies

billschiffler — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 05:01:46 +0000

William Cope Moyers’ addiction to alcohol and cocaine began in his college years, although he had used before. When he admitted his problem, he stubbornly wanted to become clean and sober his way, which hampered his sobriety. His saga is detailed in his memoir Broken. Delia Moon’s mother died when she was two years old, after which her father went to war. Reared by her grandmothers, she describes the impact of these traumas plainly and eloquently.

Relationships 101 – Ed and Eddie Rinehardt talked about Ed’s 32-year search for his father who abandoned the family when Ed was 9.

billschiffler — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 05:01:14 +0000

Despite this, Ed played a pivotal role in Eddie’s recovery when he was brain injured on the football field. These journeys are detailed in You’re OK, Kid. Dr. Jacqueline Olds, co-author of The Lonely American, spoke about the loneliness woven into the fabric of the American psyche from our cult of busyness and belief in rugged individualism. These accentuate individuals’ personal loneliness and aloneness.