As always, the dating scene is brimming with married men who either pretend to be single, or feel justified in stepping out on their wives. Well guess what? It’s not just men. Cyber-dating expert Julie Spira, bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, tells how you can know if your date is really available or not. Then psychologist Deborah Taj Anapol has a very different viewpoint: perhaps monogamy is not so natural for us in the first place. Is there a way devoted couples can retain their trust and honesty with each other, yet still experience different partners? Dr. Anapol is author of Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners.