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Biography

Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives with Al Horner

Al Horner became a teacher quite by accident. The former Navy SEAL officer enjoyed many successful years in corporate America as an international and commercial banker and as President of several companies. In 2005, a close friend asked if Horner could teach his daughter self-defense skills before she left home to attend college. He happily obliged. Three weeks later, she had to use them.

As Horner reflected on this and other similar events, he realized that a genuine need existed; women lacked the vital knowledge necessary to protect themselves in dangerous situations. Shortly thereafter, the “Not Me!” concept was born.

Since its inception, Not Me! has grown to be a wildly popular training program reaching schools, companies and women’s groups all over the Twin Cities. The program has helped prevent pain and saved women’s’ lives.

Archived Shows

• Ripley Radio – Eating Bugs, Fried Butter, & McBurgers Daniella Martin, host of the Girl Meets Bugs cooking web site visits and explains how eating worms and scorpions is not only an efficient food source that is good for the environment, but also provides exceptional protein! Deep fried beer, deep fried b...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – PREVENTION: Breaking the rules in order to be safer Social conditioning often creates behaviors that can make you less safe. What are those behaviors? Where do they come from? How do you overcome them to be safer? Listen and learn a unique lesson...then share it with friends....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – PREVENTION: Young women, alcohol and date rape Practical experience validates that a large majority of assaults on young women involve either the attacker or the young woman, or both, using alcohol. This is the story of a date rape related to alcohol. Tragically this story is very common. Listen and l...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Week 1047 Week 1047...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – PREVENTION AND ESCAPE: Personal Protection Plans - everybody needs one In today's complicated world bad things can happen at home, in relationships, or at work. Every woman's circumstances are unique and there is potential danger in one or more areas of your life. Listen and prepare to be safer by creating your own personal ...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – EMPOWERMENT: "The Drama Years - moms and dads listen to this!" A sixteen year old discusses "talking with parents". If you want more open communication with your teenage daughter, this dialogue will help you. Listen and learn how to stay in contact better during the "drama years"....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – HEALING: Healing takes time and follows a process It's not unlike a grieving process that involves in multiple stages and reiteration of some stages. There don't seem to be any shortcuts - if you skip a step then sooner or later you'll have to go back and do the work you omitted. Listen and learn about ...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – HEALING: Heroes and victims Our military service men and women are coming home with a unique set of problems. Larry and Anne lived through that experience and now work to help both deploying service members and their families understand the hard realities that result from service in...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – PREVENTION: Abusers and Cures - Part 2. This is part two of the series. This week's show deals with the question, "Is there hope - can these guys be cured?" Heidi has helped hundreds of assailants move through a process that yields high levels of greatly improved behavior so there is definitely hope. She will explain the process and the results - but she will also make us aware of one group that is not being...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – PREVENTION: Abusers and Cures - Part 1. This is the first of a two-part series. This week's show deals with the question, "Who are those guys and what do they do?" An expert, involved with thousands of real-world assaults, helps us understand who the abusers/assailants are and the forms of abuse/assault they use. Listen and learn about the problem....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – PREVENTION: Lessons from the ER - Part 3. This conclusion to the three-part series contains honest, practical lessons-learned from over 20 years of Emergency Room examinations with assault victims The information our two experts have accumulated causes them to share beliefs about how victims can prevent assaults. Listen and learn these wisdom gems that can keep you and those you care about safer. Share this with friends and relatives....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – HEALING: What questions do sexual assault victims ask in the ER and what are the answers to those questions? It's a time of pain and confusion compounded by the anxiety of unanswered questions. Listen and learn as our experienced ER experts share the questions they hear and the answers they give....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Healing: What really happens in the Emergency Room after an assault? Highly trained Sexual Assault Forensic Examiners (SAFE nurses) help victims deal with the physical and emotional aspects of an assault. It's the first step in healing. Listen and learn about what really happens....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention: Relationship violence and the workplace Each year 5,000,000 women suffer violence or abuse at their workplace linked to relationships outside of work. This is a huge problem both in terms of trauma to the women and damage to the businesses. Listen as an expert from a Fortune 500 company and I e...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention: Best practices for safe travel Two experienced travelers share a range of good ideas and then we condense them into best practices. Listen and learn how to travel more safely for both business and pleasure....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Empowerment: Empowered Living - Part 3. This is the conclusion of the series with Mary In this segment we discuss the last two Guiding Principles that allow women to lead empowered lives plus a key lesson that ties them all together. Listen and learn more about how to win in the face of adversity....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Empowerment: Empowered Living - Part 2. This is Part 2 of the series with Mary In this segment we discuss more of the Guiding Principles that allow women to lead empowered lives. Listen and learn more about how to win in the face of adversity....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Empowerment: Empowered Living - Part 1 Non-victims are usually "empowered" people; victims are often "disempowered" people. When you face attack or aggression the difference between winning and losing is often linked to whether you feel empowered or not. Listen and learn valuable life-lessons ...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention: Protecting your daughter - Part 2. We conclude the dialogue about helping insure your daughter's safety. Listen to understand the final key elements in this essential conversation....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention: Protecting your daughter - Part 1. The best insurance policy Information leads to beliefs and beliefs lead to actions. If you want your daughter to do safe actions it starts with giving her good information. Listen and learn what to communicate, when and how to do it....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention: Night Intruder. Prepare to be safer by thinking through what you will do if you hear a thump in the night Listen and learn what options you have to be safer and select those that work for you....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – PREVENTION: Re-victimization happens frequently and can be prevented After an assault the victim can be vulnerable to re-victimization at a higher-than-normal rate. There are specific reasons why increased vulnerability occurs and when you understand these reasons the rate of re-victimization can be decreased. Listen and ...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Elder Abuse and Prevention Boomers are becoming seniors. Multiple factors increase their vulnerability and multiple factors decrease their ability to protect themselves. Listen as we define various types of abuse, describe symptoms and signs of abuse, and explain how to protect tho...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Healing: Old scars and healing - part 2. And the conclusion gives us all reason to summon our own courage, or courage in those we care about, to begin the process....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Healing: Old scars and healing - Part 1. We're as sick as our secrets. Summoning the courage to face past painful experiences is critical step one. The relief and improved wellness that come from dealing with old injuries is a joy to behold. Listen and learn how to feel better....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention: Cyber safety. The good, the bad and the ugly related to Internet activity There are too many tragic stories linked to Internet activity. Listen and learn how to be smarter and be safer as you use the Internet....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – ESCAPE: Color codes to help you escape Prepare to be safer by using color codes to understand what you should do during threatening situations. Listen and learn how to manage your safety from "La La Land" to the "Danger Zone."...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention/Escape: Date rape drugs Most victims that go to hospitals after an assault have something in common. Either they or the attacker have used alcohol or drugs. Listen and learn about how this happens and how to avoid these assaults....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Healing: A time to heal After a tragedy, healing may need to happen at several levels and each of those levels may heal at a different pace. So healing is complex. In a world full of schedules and deadlines, healing can't be scheduled. It must be allowed to progress at it's own ...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention: Parties and Predators - Whether it's a bar, a family party, or a small private party, women get assaulted There are specific actions a woman can take to stay safe. Listen and learn how to party with a plan so you can stay safe....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Healing. Report or not report, Part 2. The "CSI Effect" What evidence is most valuable? How long does DNA evidence remain collectible? What is the relationship between physical evidence and "The Story"? Listen and learn as experts separate fact and fiction about evidence and how it can help make or break a cas...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Healing: Report or not report - that is the question It's often a complicated choice, filled with fear of more pain and unknown risks. But victims who have healed and experts that care about women are in agreement regarding the answer. Listen and learn what they have to say....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Healing: GLBT sexual assaults - barriers to healing. GLBT sexual assaults are similar to hetero assaults in many ways, but the victims often feel an additional layer of complications to healing. Listen to expert advice about how to begin healing most effectively after a GLBT assault....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention: The biggest problem - and solutions 80% of assaults are by a man the girl or woman knows. These attacks follow a pattern that is predictable. Listen and learn about the C.I.A. pattern so you can recognize it, stop it and prevent assaults....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Escape: Self defense devices From keys, pens and car alarms to pistols, defensive devices can help you escape from an attacker. Listen and learn how to deter attackers and escape effectively....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention: Partying and Spring Break Many assaults are linked to parties and alcohol. If you party with a plan you can be much safer. Listen to true stories and an outline for your plan....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – HEALING: How to heal successfully The healing process after an assault is complex, has phases and happens at several different levels. Understanding the process and the levels of healing helps either you or one you care about heal better and faster. Listen and learn about how to heal succ...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Healing: Effective Healing...best practices. An experienced professional shares what she knows works well. Listen to help yourself or share this with a friend....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention and Escape: Attitude and confidence. Learn about a "secret weapon" that really works....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention: Denial is your second biggest enemy. Denial helps attackers. Learn why....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Who are these attackers? Why do they do it? How can I recognize them? Two experts with 35 years of experience provide pragmatic answers you can use....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Prevention: Trafficking Part 2 - Feel the passion Trafficking is perhaps the largest unrecognized and unprosecuted crime in America. Listen and learn about what we can do to reduce the pain being forced on our young women....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives – Healing-Sexual Assault Examinations, an important part of healing. Kassi demystifies the exam process and illustrates its power in beginning a successful healing process. This is critical information for you or any assaulted friend....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Healing-Why did God let this happen? Some answers? Listen as Pastor Leesa and I explore this spiritual dilemma. We'll use the classic work of Rabbi Kushner as a template for offering answers. You may be surprised at where we end up when an experienced Christian minister and a highly regarded Rabbi address...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Escape-Moves any woman can use to escape. They really work. Attacks come from the front, side and back. We'll explain simple moves that any woman, young or old, can use to escape. Listen, learn, and escape...if you have to....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Healing-You're as sick as your secrets; a discussion of healing. Chris is an expert therapist. She shares wisdom about successful post-assault healing processes. Listen, learn, and feel better. ...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention-Being safe at work: tips from successful women. Jodi was abducted on her way to work; Dru was abducted, brutalized and murdered going home from work. About 25 female real estate agents are killed each year while at work. We'll give you safety guidelines that are effective. ...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention-Protecting girls under age 10: simple rules that work. The tragic loss of a friend, Jodi Huisentruitt, caused a group of women to focus on making young girls safer. From their experience comes simple rules you can teach your young girls that will help them be safer. Listen and share. ...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention-The tragedy of trafficking, Part 1. Who and how? It starts at ages 8-12. Girls are sold for sex. White, Black, Latino, Indian, Asian...all are affected. Suzanne shares the results of her multi-year study. You will be moved....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention-About stalking: facts from a woman who knows. 1-in-12 women will be stalked. Of women who are killed by intimate partners, 76% will have been stalked by the killer in the previous 12 months. This is informed discussion of a serious topic by a victim who has been an advocate for 15 years....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention-She faced an attacker with a machete and escaped. Carrie faced a night intruder who had a machete'. She used her Not Me! training and courage to escape. It's an amazing story....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention-An expert discusses domestic abuse. Straight talk from Carol Arthur, a world-class expert on prevention, escape, and healing....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention-Overcoming domestic abuse. Suzanne's story about living through horror and then taking control of her life. She's one of my "wonder women"....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention and Healing-Lessons from a rape crisis counselor. Kelly helped hundreds of women in the aftermath of attacks and she shares lesson on how to prevent assaults and how to recover if the worst happens....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention-3 of 4 women escape from attackers when they fight. Our guest is Lynn and her stories plus others illustrate that 3-of-4 rape attempts are stopped by women who resist. You don't have to be a victim!" As Diane approached her home she was abducted and then raped. Her lessons-learned will help women avoid ass...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention-Helpful lessons from a woman raped at gunpoint. As Diane approached her home she was abducted and then raped. Her lessons-learned will help women avoid assaults, escape from an attacker and heal more quickly."...
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention-Young women and alcohol: hard story, helpful lessons. She was new to college and new to drinking; he took advantage of her. This is Terese's story and her lessons learned....
• Not Me! Empowering Women and Saving Lives - Prevention-Young women and guys they know: hard story, helpful lessons. 1-in-4 college girls will be assaulted. Our guest tells her painful story and we learn how to prevent that pain....