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Why Can’t We Get Along? with Dr. Millicent Carvalho and Brian Grevious

Dr. MILLICENT CARVALHO
Millicent Carvalho received her Ph.D. in Social Work, Master of Social Science (Social Work) and Master of Law and Social Policy degrees from Bryn Mawr College. In addition, she received her Master of Counselor Education degree from Boston University and undergraduate degree from La Salle University. Her research interests are in conflict avoidance and violence prevention, case management and family care giving. Dr. Carvalho is a master trainer, certified mediator, licensed social worker and trained facilitator. Trained in most mediation, conferencing and conflict resolution models, Dr. Carvalho founded the Pennsylvania Conflict Resolution and Mediation Services, Inc. (tag) in 2002 in order to provide more culturally relevant mediation and conflict resolution services. She has been a practicing mediator for more than 25 years. Dr. Carvalho’s training helps individuals and groups to manage change in ways that increase collaboration and result in positive outcomes. Her mediation and diversity expertise have aided in keeping constituencies with diverse stakeholders and points of view—working together.

BRIAN GREVIOUS
Brian Grevious received his Master of Arts in Human Services from Antioch University and Bachelor of Business Administration from Temple University with a specialization in Management/Industrial Relations and Organizational Behavior. A retired detective (gold shield) and trained investigator and mediator, he has extensive criminal justice experience and forensic interviewing and coordinating of parallel investigations experience at all levels. In addition, Brian has a keen understanding of human behavior and experience managing and organizing behavioral health programs.

Archived Shows

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• Why can’t we get along? – Cause for Pause: What Don’t I Know I Don’t Know?

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• Why can’t we get along? – How do you explain faculty violence on college campuses?

  Tune in for a no holds barred conversation with Dr. Patricia Washington, Professor of Social Work (Emeritus), Florida Gulf Coast University. Learn about the distress that the tenure process inflicts on faculty and how colleges can best support new faculty.

• Why can’t we get along ? – Rules for Change: Are Saul Alinsky’s Methods the Antithesis of Obtaining Agreement for Change?

  President Obama has been criticized for employing Alinsky’s adversarial methods in forcing health care reform (Obama Care), despite the repudiation from the majority of the American public. Tune in for an illuminating conversation regarding perceptions of culture and oppression with Dr. John (White Eagle) Tracy, Chair of the Social Work Department at Western Illinois University and Alinsky scholar.

• Why can't we get along ? - No Kidding About Bullying: a Conversation with Naomi Drew

  Tune in for a no holds barred discussion on bullying in schools with Naomi Drew, author of “No Kidding about Bullying,” and learn ready-to-use techniques that help kids manage anger, resolve conflicts, build empathy, and get along.

• Why can't we get along ? - Conflict and Convicts: Conflict resolution tools in and outside of prison

  Ever wonder what really goes on in prison and how staff can help prisoners resolve conflict? Tune in for a no holds barred discussion with a prison psychologist, and learn how staff cope with the threat of violence and what steps one prison has taken to rehabilitate inmates, who are reintegrating into society.

• Why can't we get along ? - 10 Most Popular New Year’s Resolutions and the Conflict They Produce

  A problem is not a problem unless it is perceived as a problem. Using real-life examples, conflict resolution experts, Millicent Carvalho and Brian Grevious critique the most popular New Year’s resolutions. Tune in for an entertaining and instructive discussion of different perspectives of the same problem.

• Why can't we get along ? - Asian Student Conflict in Philadelphia and the NAACP: What is the NAACP’s position in this controversy, and does the “C” in NAACP stand for all people of color?

  Racial intimidation is unacceptable regardless whether it involves African- American victims and white perpetrators or Asian-American victims and African-American perpetrators. Why is it important to have an impartial mediator when attempting to resolve a community conflict? Tune in and hear our hosts discuss these issues as well as address the need to support victims of racial intimidation.

• Why can't we get along ? - Soldiers Home for the Holidays

  Angel Fernandez, an Iraq and Afghanistan war veteran, shares his story about conflict for soldiers home on leave during the holiday season. Listen and get a better understanding of what some soldiers confront during home visits and how family and friends can help.

• Why can't we get along ? - Conflict During the Holidays

  The Christmas season brings a lot of anxiety. Tune in for an uplifting discussion with Dr. Mary Wade, a minister and expert in conflict resolution, regarding how to constructively deal with destructive family members, the financial crises affecting your ability to purchase gifts for family and friends, negotiating family customs and the handling of, “Is there really a Santa Claus?”

• Why can't we get along ? - Seth Williams’ Interview, Part II

  Philadelphia and many urban cities like it, such as Detroit and Chicago share many of the same problems, for example, loss of employment opportunities, crime, violence in the streets and disenchantment with the criminal justice process. Hear what Seth Williams, DA elect, will to do differently when he takes office in 2010.

• Why can't we get along ? - Seth Williams’ Interview, Part I

  Tough on crime and strong on coalition-building, Seth Williams, District Attorney Elect for the City of Philadelphia, explains how his background and experience have shaped his vision for ensuring public safety, assisting young people to resolve conflict constructively and being an agent for change. Part II will air 11/30

• Why can't we get along ? - Get the 411 on How to Properly Read a Book

  Dr. Olga Dugan, Assistant Professor of English at the Community College of Philadelphia, 2008 recipient of the Lindback Award for Excellence in Teaching, and poet and playwright shares innovative techniques for how to approach a book whether your reading for fun (book club) or class. Conquer your fears and enlarge your world.

• Why can't we get along ? - Are you ready for love?

  Tune in for an inspirational story of how love transformed formed one couple’s relationship. Hear the real life story of real-life celebrities, Jerry and Bobbie Samuels who recently rekindled their love. Jerry wrote the 60s hit song, “They Are Coming to Take Me Away, Ha-Haaa” and co-authored, “The Shelter of Your Arms” with Sammy Davis, Jr.

• Why can't we get along ? - The Unintended Consequences of Miscommunications

  Want to avoid an argument or battle with your husband, wife or domestic partner? Don’t miss this unique opportunity to hear how differently a man and a woman respond to a heated discussion on a sensitive subject. Listen to real-life examples of the unintended consequences of miscommunications. You won’t be disappointed.

• Why can't we get along ? - Responsible Journalists Needed: People Need Accurate Information and the Media Needs to Tell the Truth

  Tune in for a spirited discussion of partisan reporting of the news and how misinformation exacerbates conflict. Learn steps you can take to avoid it. In addition, learn what China is doing to manage domestic conflict more peacefully. Dr. Carvalho talks about her recent trip to China at the invitation of the Chinese.

• Why can't we get along ? - Rush Limbaugh Victim or Villain

  Don't miss this spirited discussion of the controversy surrounding Rush Limbaugh buying a NFL football team. Get a new perspective on the problem and learn what is really behind critics' call to deny Rush ownership of a team. In addition, get practical advice on how to use constructive conflict resolution techniques to save your marriage and sanity during a financial crisis.

• Why can't we get along ? - President Obama is awarded the Nobel Peace Prize, but some ask: “For What?”

  Tune in for a spirited discussion of how politics may have hijacked the coveted Nobel Peace Prize as well as a review of the David Letterman scandal.

• Why can't we get along ? - Youth Violence in Chicago Overshadowed by President Obama’s Impending Visit to Copenhagen to Tout Chicago for the 2016 Olympics

  Listen to husband and wife team, Dr. Millicent Carvalho and Brian Grevious discuss the explosion of youth violence in Chicago at the same time the president is touting Chicago as the future home of the 216th Olympics. Will the hype of the Olympics overshadow the true underpinnings that currently face Chicago? Tune in for a no holds barred, spirited discussion that will explore single parenting, youth violence and the role of the Black church and how they have shaped poverty in Chicago. Hear a different perspective of these current issues

• Why can't we get along ? - Is America becoming the land of the rude?

  The lack of civility when expressing anger or disagreement is leading some to believe that American is becoming the land of the rude. Listen to co-hosts Dr. Carvalho and Brian Grevious discuss how lack of respect and limited conflict management skills can escalate a conflict. In addition, they discuss the importance of dialogue and moving beyond race when the issue is racism

• Why can't we get along ? - Voting Right or Voting Rights?

  This week, listen to Dr. Carvalho and her co-host engage in difficult conversations surrounding race and politics as influencers of political change. They address controversial questions such as, should you vote with your race and how can you deal with conflict when others perceive your voting choices as being non-conformist.

• Why can't we get along ? - Transitions

  Transitions are often difficult. Whether it is going back to school or learning new conflict resolution or management styles -- there is usually an adjustment period in times of change. This week, listen to Dr. Carvalho talk to Dr. Joanne A. Jones Barnett, Chief Executive Office of the Pennsylvania Virtual Charter School on returning to the classroom via "cyber school" as well as how to select a professional mediator.

• Why can't we get along ? - Excess: media advertising and personal behaviors

  This week Dr. Carvalho discusses binge drinking among college women and ethics in media broadcasting and advertising, such as PETA’s latest inflammatory campaign and Glenn Beck’s rants against President Obama. She will address how ethical decision-making and transparency are important tools “in helping people to get along.” Listen to Dr. Carvalho provide powerful insight into how mediation tools can help transform these processes as she engages in dialogue with experts in the communication and public relations fields.

• Why can't we get along ? - Power dynamics: In what situations do people have the most power and/or influence?

  This week, Dr. Carvalho addresses current hot topics: the health care reform town-hall debate and how to help powerful women find a man to marry. She will address how issues of power can affect inter-personal relationships, particularly when a person or groups of people are trying to covey a message to generate "buy-in." Listen to Dr. Carvalho provide powerful insight into how mediation tools can help transform these processes.

• Why can't we get along ? - What are your options when you feel stuck?

  What happens when you get locked into a particular role in a relationship or stage in your life and you want to break free? Tune in this week to listen to Dr. Carvalho discuss how to break out and start fresh. She'll go through the best way to make a good first impression and how to use different conflict resolution styles when you want to make a relationship work.

• Why can't we get along ? - Can various perceptions of the 50/50 rule heighten conflict?

  Tune in and listen to Dr. Carvalho's timely analysis of the Crowley-Gate's conflict as well as sharing tips on dealing with conflict with your spouse, your kids, and dealing with new relationships. For instance: what does it really mean to go dutch? To share household responsibilities? Get a new perspective on what fairness really means.

• Why can't we get along ? - Week 0930

  Office romances are more common than you might think. Learn the best ways to navigate what can often be a tricky situation. Also, recession blues got you down? Learn various coping mechanisms for dealing with losing your job. Listen to Dr. Carvalho share tips on how to cope with these issues and more.

• Why can't we get along ? - "Did I say that? What I meant to say was…"

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