In so far as we keep holding emotional fear and negative outlooks within us. We tend to keep on attracting both the very sort of situations and relationships that will keep on triggering our darkest side. And thus more and more rounds of the same old, same old into our lives. In this huge respect it appears that one of the great what’s so’s about being human, is that the only way forward toward the truly great lives we long for. Is to discover just how to totally clear ourselves of all of our old contractive, and thus inner negative state holding patterns. In other words it is simply impossible to learn to live in the light, by way of holding onto our dark.