Health and Wellness

Hope, Healing and WellBeing

Mary Treacy O'Keefe

Hope, Healing and WellBeing – The Real Rules of Life with Dr. Ken Druck

Dr. Ken Druck tragically lost his daughter Jenna in an accident in India when she was just 21 years old. He now uses his experiences to help others who are grieving, including in his work at the Jenna Druck Center, and with his newest book, The Real Rules of Life: Balancing Life’s Terms with Your Own. Dr. Ken discusses various aspects of grieving, including ‘living losses’, those non-death losses we all have in our lives. We discuss some of his 23 “Real Rules” that help us turn adversity into opportunity. One of the most important things we can do to help others is to be a good listener, because “listening is love.” He gives suggestions for becoming a better listener, including reflecting back to the other person what they are saying and trying to be “more of a facilitator than a fixer.” We discuss how people deal with the end of their lives, a time when he advocates being open to the mysteries of both life and death. Dr. Ken stresses how important it is to stay connected to those we have loved and lost, as they still exist in the “spirit space” of our hearts. We live in the “middle of miracles and suffering, with gifts and blessings in front of us.” He recommends reaching out with compassion to anyone who has lost a loved one. Dr. Ken shares one of his favorite exercises from the many ones in his book: how to apologize to someone who we believe we have hurt. There is tremendous power in asking for forgiveness, but it’s also helpful to offer a ‘make up’ action, like taking someone out to lunch. Apologies can re-open relationships and helps both parties heal. To learn more about Dr. Ken Druck and his book, please visit