Embrace The Idea of Living Now
Welcome to ‘Healing From Within.’ I am your host Sheryl Glick Reiki Master Energy Teacher/medium and author of the newest book in a trilogy A New Life Awaits Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening which shares stories and messages that show us the challenges we are now facing are not economical political or societal just a spiritual disconnect from our true being or soul wisdom. I am delighted to welcome Codi Shewan, author of Everyday Legacy who needs to know that we need to live now as each moment is an opportunity to create love and enjoy life.
As listeners of “Healing From Within” are well aware Sheryl and her guests share intimate stories and a growing awareness that life is a duality both physical and spiritual for we are indeed spiritual beings having a physical life. In learning that when all energy is engaged and utilized we put aside the false reality of duality and come into a realization of the Oneness of all life. We realize our greatest potential to thrive and enjoy life in all dimensions of true awareness. Merging our spiritual gifts with the physical life experience gives us the ability to thrive, manifest and create and live a happy healthy prosperous joyful life experience as well as advance our soul energetic refinement towards greater compassion and love.
In today’s episode of “Healing From Within” Codi Shewan, now a motivational speaker, formerly had a 20 year career as a funeral director and his experiences facing death every day taught him a lot of lessons about living. Through powerful stories Shewan’s message is simple: In each moment we have the ability to change ourselves and those around us in profound ways!
When Sheryl asks Codi to think back to his childhood and remember a person, place, event or interest that may have shown him or others around him the lifestyle or adult life he would choose to live he tells us “Besides my mother, my grandmother has been the most important person in my life. She was my best friend. I often thought of myself as a weird kid and didn’t seem to fit in anywhere, but I always fit in with her. Many children like spending time with their grandparents but I loved it. We would routinely go to play minigolf or go swimming at a local beach. We were inseparable. She was so easygoing and lovely. I know now that she was trying to fill the gap that her son left in my life, which only expanded my love for her.
Pat my was short for Patricia and she had been born into an affluent family. Her family owned a private school in England. It didn’t hurt that she was British and the accent helped too. During our visits we bonded over tea toast and bacon. But her affluent life ended when she was eight years old and the school was overtaken by the Second World War. Her father died after mysteriously falling through one of the school’s second story windows. The family immigrated to Canada, but it was jarring to go from wealth to poverty so quickly. My grandmother had such a warm open heart and loved deeply and lived simply. Going from wealth to poverty gave her a perspective on what was important. It was immensely important to her to have character and integrity, a quiet conviction and a servant’s heart. And, above all else, to love deeply. At the time of Grandma Pat’s death I felt so angry that I only had twenty seven years with her. She died so young. There was so much life in her, but dementia had other plans.
As a developing intuitive healer and medium years ago, Sheryl became a hospice volunteer for 8 years trying to help people soon to transition to life beyond here and their families to know there is no death—just a transition to higher dimensions of energetic soul life. As a funeral director were you aware that Consciousness survives physical death? Codi tells us about volunteering in palliative care or end of life care and his fascination with the funeral profession. Palliative care is where people go to die. When people enter palliative care, their illness has progressed beyond treatment. It is often also called hospice or end of life care. In most instances Codi introduced himself to the patients offered to read to them and they might or might not take me up on that suggestion and if a visitor arrived Codi excused himself. But Codi felt comfortable in that setting and helped the patients to relax also.
Sheryl tells Codi that as a hospice volunteer for 8 years after her mom died in hospice care and as a developing energy practitioner and medium she felt it was the place where I could help souls transition and their families to know “Consciousness survives physical death” and life was eternal. In my book A New Life Awaits, I share many stories and messages from Spirit and from lessons and people I spent time with at hospice that validate the truth of these statements.
“Sheryl wrote,” I realize now the reason Spirit told me I had to do a third book, A New Life Awaits: Spirit Guided Insights to Global Awakening, about the new life we create each and every day of life by the choices we make and hopefully with a growing soul awareness of what waits for us beyond a short-lived physical life. We may learn about the journey of transcendence after physical death, hoping to ultimately prove our eternal soul meets all those loved ones in Spirit, where we continue on our journey of life for our continued personal soul development. Whether in a body or in pure energy, the soul is the essence and complete oneness of Spirit’s Intelligence and Universal Love and travels with us through time and space, lifetime after lifetime, as we gather experiences to refine our already magnificent soul. Death, in my opinion, is merely the next destination or adventure in our continuous circle of life. There really is no death, only the unfolding of the infinite layers of realities that exist withinus, in this world, and beyond. These layers are filled with the excitement and wonderment of the beauty of nature, friendship, memories, and experiences gathered during many lifetimes.”
Sheryl tells Codi she always has wonderful coincidences or synchronicity with her amazing guests and today we have one. Codi writes about Malala who when she was eleven years old and was blogging for the BBC about the Taliban attacking schools stopping girls from being educated, Malala continued to speak out about her right to be educated and the rights of all women to be educated. At the age of fifteen when riding a bus home from school, Malala was shot in the head. But the bullet did not kill her or kill her spirit. On her sixteenth birthday Malala gave a speech at the United Nations about education and women’s rights only nine months after being shot. She strongly urged leaders to change these antiquated policies. At seventeen years old Malala became the youngest person ever to receive the Nobel Peace Prize. Malala is living her Everyday Legacy. This year one of my twin granddaughters dressed up in a costume portraying Malala and Sheryl was so delighted. Sheryl carries a picture of her in that sensitive choice of representing courageous women.
Codi tells us why he decided to write and speak about how we can live more purposefully every day.
Codi writes, “For as long as I can remember something inside me has stirred. Before I decided to write this book, I couldn’t have told you what that stirring was. I just felt an overwhelming sense that I had a greater purpose: that I was being prepared for something. I had tried more than once to write books about business and the successful strategies I’d gathered and implemented over the years. My attempts flopped.
Sheryl says that she also tried several times to write a book but stopped: perhaps the time or subject matter were not what she was supposed to be working on. However, twenty five years ago, after a series of metaphysical mystic experiences Sheryl was told she would write three books and she just finished the trilogy A New Life Awaits Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening in March 2020 just when the Coronavirus plague hit. Life plans and destiny happen in the right time and setting and are not always what we thought would happen. Miracles and surprises are the fun of life and the universe. We are truly born with a capacity to have our soul enriched and our energy refined and in time if we are paying attention, we find the best parts of ourselves, which were always there.
Codi goes on to describe the estranged relationship with Bob, Codi’s father which may have led him to realize that the perceptions of failure in that relationship were within his ego mind story and that by learning to control the ego he could discover “There’s more here than I know or am being told.” Codi’s ego went to Bob’s funeral thinking his distant and uncaring father didn’t even deserve one. But at the funeral he kept his mind open wide enough to think Okay here’s more information. Here’s a perspective about my father and his life I didn’t have before. Wow. His friends really loved him.
Controlling the ego can be a constant struggle as we all know. You might begin to think Ugh I have to be around those people again but then another voice pipes up and says Well I don’t know what’s going on in their world. I should be kinder. If you are having this type of struggle you are in the process of trying to get control over your ego. Codi tells us if he had allowed his ego to continue controlling the conversation, he would never have found a way to make peace with Bob and what a shame that would have been for him.
Codi often says when he arranged funerals he would hear what he has come to call Echoes of Regret, people wishing they had spent more time with those around them who mattered, given one more hug, or told loved ones how they truly felt. He tells us more about that. A regret is something we wish we had done differently. Regrets will feed your ego and burden your conscience. But we have the power to avoid regrets. To live without regret means to communicate with love and empathy.
Although Codi verbally tells people he loves them, there are many ways to express love. Some people show their love through actions rather than words. Whether you are saying it, or showing it through behavior, as long as it’s consistent and congruent with what you want to be remembered for, you aren’t going to live with Echoes of Regret. Before someone is gone you can prevent the” I should have” and the “I wish I had” and reach a resolution with someone you might otherwise attach a regret to. You can have a conversation and shift behaviors and perceptions to a more realistic or positive reality. Frequently, when doing things to limit Echoes of Regret, we realize that our acts of kindness, generosity of spirit, and philanthropic efforts have far more consequence for us than for the benefactors. When the end moves closer, if you are living consciously and purposefully, you can rest assured knowing your loved ones do not doubt that they mattered to you. Void of regrets.
Sheryl remembers when she was 17 years old she went to a Broadway show “Man of La Mancha,” and heard the song the Impossible Dream which became the destiny she eventually found she was born to realize, and like Codi, Sheryl in finding the connection to her spiritual gifts, learned to know the true meaning of following your soul’s destiny and fulfilling your eternal life mission Sheryl found her mission in the words of the song, The Impossible Dream. Here are a few words that truly resonated within her:
“To dream the impossible dream,
To fight the unbeatable foe,
To bear with unbearable sorrow,
To run where the brave dare not go.
To right, the un-rightable wrong
To love pure and chaste from afar,
To try when your arms are too weary,
To reach the unreachable star.
This is my quest,
To follow that star
No matter how hopeless,
No matter how far.
To fight for the right
Without question or pause,
To be willing to march into
Hell for a heavenly cause.
And I know if I’ll only be true
To this glorious quest
That my heart will lie peaceful and calm
When I’m laid to rest
And the world will be better for this.”
Sheryl has found when we have walked the path of the Divine, sharing our passion for higher truths in all the experiences and with all the people we have met no matter how hard the journey has been we have trust in the universal plan of life. We then have recognized the divinity within and have shared it with the world to the best of our ability.
Codi tells us what he has learned as a result of his estranged father’s funeral. Codi tells us that his father Bob and he had a fractured relationship. Bob and his mother didn’t stay together very long after Codi was born. They separated when Codi was just three years old. People liked Bob but he wasn’t much of a father or husband. When Codi was about seven his mother remarried. Codi writes, “when stepparents come into your life, a common line is “ I’m not here to replace your father or mother.” But for Codi there was no one to replace. He didn’t know what having a father was like. The older Codi became the more distant his father Bob became and he only lived a mere fifteen miles away. Every Christmas Codi was obliged to visit him in his basement. He would give me a piece of art he had made. He didn’t have any money. There really was no connection. Codi went through school for mortuary science and became a funeral director and embalmer. He often thought “Does my father expect me to help with his funeral when he dies?” “Why would he want a funeral? Funerals are to celebrate life and we have nothing to celebrate about this man.” The time came when Codi got a call from his mother that his father had died. Emotions hit Codi that he didn’t expect. The hope from Codi’s childhood that the relationship between them would improve had vanished. It was a surreal experience to make funeral arrangements. As Codi and his uncle emptied the apartment, friends of Bob came by and offered the names of others who would be pallbearers. Codi was surprised there were so many. His friends told my uncle and Codi how great Bob was, but this was not the man or father Codi had known. Even through all the reconciling of his death, Codi managed to recognize and appreciate the fact that while he wasn’t much of a father, apparently, he was one heck of a friend.
Codi also learned that there is a magical time in many young people’s lives when their relationship with their parents starts to shift and if they’re lucky, their parents become their friends, too. It’s a beautiful harmony. Today Codi hangs out with his mother and stepfather. If Bob had lived longer they might have hit that stride. They might have moved past the fractured nature of our relationship.
Sheryl says as a medium she has come to know that souls become aware of relationships in the afterlife that they wish could have resolved when alive. In the afterlife many are able to heal and communicate with living loved ones with a new perspective of why they had difficulties, and do something to heal those feelings. Relationships may be healed via dreams, astral travel, medium readings, or when we meet again beyond this life.
Codi tells us about when he volunteered at palliative care, also called hospice, and one particular interaction with one of the patients Roy. Codi tells us about volunteering in palliative care or end of life care and his fascination with the funeral profession. Palliative care is where people go to die. When people enter palliative care, their illness has progressed beyond treatment. It is often also called hospice or end of life care. In most instances Codi introduced himself to the patients, offered to read to them, and they might or might not take him up on that suggestion and if a visitor arrived Codi excused himself. There, Codi met Roy, a pastor who had performed hundreds of funerals for his parishioners over the years. Roy had spent his life on the pulpit conveying what he thought to be the truth through his words. Roy knew what he believed and was generous with his love and wisdom. Roy didn’t look or behave like the other patients. An Evangelical pastor in his eighties battling cancer, he was alert, lucid, chipper, spry and curious. Roy hung on to life for a while longer. Codi was in his first year of college when Roy passed. In retrospect Codi says he believes he was meant to be with Roy and specifically the most important lessons that Codi learned in palliative care came fromlistening. Nothing survives palliative care except the lessons that family volunteers and medical staff learn. What we learn from listening just might live on forever.
Codi tells us of that day July 17, 2009 when he saw his grandmother on the subway. Codi writes, “On July 17, 2009 Codi saw his grandmother Pat on the subway. Some might say, “That’s nice” or “Big Deal.” Either way it is. She died in 2005. Lulled by the rocking of the subway, I glanced right and there she was, a woman in her seventies, standing swaying waiting to arrive at her destination. She looked remarkably like my grandmother only she appeared to be of African descent and my grandmother was European. But the shape of her face, her eyes, her hair, even the way she stood—it was as if my grandmother were there again, not ten feet away. I hoped this woman was loved and appreciated and her family cherished every moment they had with her. I knew what I did for Codi’s grandmother was to make him an incredible human being.”
Sheryl says “as a medium I have often seen the features and energy of a soul imprinted on another living person. It is called “Soul Overlay.” In my new book A New Life Awaits, I tell the story of my Uncle Hy who was a bigger than life personality appearing before me in a car that passed by and minutes later on the boardwalk as a man who looked exactly like him walked by me and then a third time before leaving the beach. It alerted me to call my uncle when I got home and my aunt told me her father who was in Spirit had looked very much like my uncle and obviously he wanted to say hello to his daughter, my aunt Lilly, and for her to tell me the story that a week before he died, my aunt had a dream of his passing but didn’t say anything. Sometimes sensitive people or mediums pick up the fact that someone will be passing but we cannot change events. I think Codi’s grandmother imprinted her energy on this other woman so Codi could know his grandmother was still close by.”
Codi would like readers to take away with them after reading Everyday Legacy the following. Codi writes, “You are going to die. Creating an Everyday Legacy is about taking that inevitable fact and shifting your intention from leaving a legacy to living it. A great power exists in consciously living your legacy every single day. Someone once said that while we will all die, not all of us live. Living a legacy is about embracing who we are and the gifts we can give to the world and offering those qualities in our daily interactions, to shape how we live. The beautiful part of this shift is that it makes the end irrelevant. Death could be anywhere on the horizon, but if you’re living more purposefully and powerfully today, it doesn’t matter where that end is.
This changes our relationship with death. Learning to live in a meaningful way quiets the fear of death because the resonance of our purpose is so loud. Another important aspect of living your Everyday Legacy is helping people become aware of what they will be remembered for. Once you’re dialed into this energy you’ll naturally want to point out to others their unique greatness.”
So how do you want to be remembered? If you are like most people you might say. I want to be remembered as a good mother, friend, teacher, nurse. BUT THAT’S NOT A LEGACY. Legacy isn’t a title. Legacy isn’t an occupation. It’s who you are and what you give to people. It is all the qualities of being patient, kind, loving , attentive and thoughtful and how you touch your children and every other person in your life. It is the ability to be inspiring, empathic and compassionate, selfless with your time and support others.
Sheryl would like to thank Codi Shewan, author of Everyday Legacy, for sharing a very different and unique look at the qualities of life which truly enhance our soul and our personality, making life a more joyful and fulfilling experience, while understanding some of the difficulties in relationships actually serve to help us find what truly rings out loud and clear, with authentic love and respect for people and life.
In summarizing today’s episode of :Healing From Within,” we have shared the insightful and delightful discoveries that Codi Shewan has made as he found a way to resolve within himself the hurtful relationship with his father sharing how to move past traumas and wounds of childhood finding gratitude for life and learned to appreciate the deep love for self and the truth always within of his capacity to share kindness love patience thoughtfulness attentiveness and support for all the people in your life.
Codi shares a quote from the sage Lao Tzu: “When I let go of what I am I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need. You may realize that an overactive ego might prohibit more loving interactions.”
In other words when you let go of who you think you are, you meet your awakened self. You also learn to accept all people, even those who may have been difficult for you to understand or appreciate. When you understand that a person may be acting under the compulsion of their ego rather than the finer essence of their soul which may still lie dormant at the moment, you can walk away from negative experiences realizing that was a miserable ego rather than merely a miserable person.
Codi and Sheryl would have you remember that whatever you choose to do or be part of if it comes from a place of love it will refine your spirit and how you show up each day in sharing the magnificent soul beauty from within and will bring joy to you and everyone you met.
Sheryl Glick, host of “Healing From Within” and author of the newest book in a trilogy, A New Life Awaits, which shares stories of spiritual communication and the fact that it is not merely economic political societal challenges we are facing but a disconnect from our divine being or soul wisdom. Please go to Sheryl’s website www.sherylglick.com and read about and listen to leaders in the fields of spirituality, science, metaphysics, energy, medicine, psychology, the arts and music, as they seek answers to age old questions of life, death and eternal truths.