Investment in Your Own Personal Growth Strategy
Welcome to “Healing From Within” I am your host Sheryl Glick a Reiki Master Energy Teacher medium and author of A New Life Awaits Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening which shares a broad and bold view of these changing times to discover our problems are not merely economic political or societal but a separation from our spiritual inner sense of soul wisdom and the truth of being I am delighted to have with us today Dr. Brenda Bowers author of World Changers and Difference Makers who introduces solutions and a framework for you to maximize your potential as an individual and citizen of society. Dr. Bowers expertise lies in the areas of psychology, substance abuse and professional counseling with the goal of advancing a healthier society through a faith based and holistic lens.
As listeners of “Healing From Within” well know, Sheryl and her guests search our inner landscape or subconscious memories to connect the physical and energetic essence of life so we may begin to know who we are, where life originated, and how to process the challenges of our everyday life experiences. Indeed as spiritual beings having a physical life we are complicated magnificent beings who are capable of creating through our thoughts and actions the world as it exists now and in the future.
In today’s episode of “Healing From Within” we will consider being aware as a neutral state. It isn’t a right or a wrong, nor a negative or a positive, it’s simply neutral. It is the process of becoming heightened about your own character and coming into yourself by recognizing your motives — motives that are not driven by anyone except you. Can you exist separate and distinct from everyone else in your life and still define who you are? It’s a critical question and Dr. Brenda Bowers will direct us to find thoughts that can help us discover who we are and how to make a difference in living a life of purposeful action.
Sheryl asks Brenda to think back to her childhood and remember a personal event that may have signaled to her or others what their interests and lifestyle would reflect as an adult and Brenda immediately thinks of her father who helped her be open and gracious to all living things. She tells us the story of a fishing trip and writes, “Maybe it was somewhere around the age of nine when my dad took me fishing and nature exploring. He blindfolded me, turned me around numerous times, and told me to find my way back to his truck. On this particular trip, I encountered a bull and a herd of deer that looked like they were having a meeting that I was interrupting. I saw many other creatures along the way and despite having never seen or heard of it, I found myself as a young Doctor Doolittle in the making. I was too young and naïve to be afraid, but obedient enough to see the given task through to the end.
Did this create fears for me? Absolutely. I did not understand what they were, but it was probably at that time that the spark of self-awareness began to come through and actually became a gift inside of me. Self-awareness is an important theme of this book and your future. Conversely, when I came upon the deer, it appeared as if they were in a meeting that I somehow got caught in the middle of without an invitation; as if the election had just finished and they were debriefing about it. They looked back at me and I looked at them and in that second, that experience had a differentiating factor. That factor was understanding how I was going to relate to them and vice versa.
The choice that I made in seconds was to stay calm and use my words. I said, “I’m so sorry to be interrupting whatever is going on here. All I’m trying to do is get back to my dad’s truck. I’m sorry if I bothered you.” And it appeared that they understood because they just let me walk through and walk away. Every differentiation in the experience of getting out of those woods gave me strength to continue to be “different.” It gave me a contradiction that allowed me to embrace the foreign and accept it as familiar.
Another story Brenda tells that showed her she was maybe different. Brenda grew up in a very small town of about 26,000 people and everyone didn’t look, sound, or talk alike, but we were raised not to see differences. As I got older though, I realized that some people were treating me differently.
In order to graduate from high school, each student had to study agriculture. To fulfill this requirement, I became a corn detasseler at 12 years old. I was paid $2.57 an hour to work in a field taking the tassels off the corn stalks so that they could be ground up and used for feed. Surprisingly, this work was actually fun. I loved spending time outdoors. But I began to feel as though I wasn’t the same as everyone else. Before work, a truck would come and pick us up. It would stop and we’d get on the back of it and ride to the field. But when the truck came to get me, it never stopped. It just kept going and the driver said that I had to catch the truck. I had to grab the end of it and lift myself onto the back of the truck or I would miss my shift.
Again, this is a 12-year-old’s first job. I didn’t know I was the only person experiencing this. My friends who were also doing this summer job said, “Brenda, the driver always stops for us. You’re the only person that has to catch the truck or we leave you. We don’t know why that is but it just doesn’t feel fair.
I asked my mom about this as I did not understand why it was happening. It was then that we had a serious conversation about how my ethnicity could very well be the reason that I was being treated differently. I could not wrap my mind around that. It made zero sense to me. I was the best corn detasseler! I was always ready early and had a great spirit. So why would the color of my skin cause someone to treat me differently?
The situation, unfortunately, never changed — but I got faster. I started running. I made sure to catch that truck! I figured out how to catch it with one arm and swing myself up there. I stopped skinning my knees and I decided if this is going to be what I’m dealt with then I’m going to deal with this situation and conquer it.”
And I did. But I started to feel “less than.” I started to feel awkward. I started to feel that people were looking at me differently than they had before. Getting straight A’s wasn’t good enough anymore. Being on the track team wasn’t good enough anymore. Taking the basketball team to state wasn’t good enough anymore, all because I looked different than some other people. That stark reality was another moment of self-awareness for me. I didn’t realize it, I didn’t know it, but I had been in the woods with the bulls and the deer for such a time as this and I was up for the challenge.
Sheryl says that this is the racism that people feel when discriminated against because of race, culture, gender or religion. It is always the same. Just hatred and ignorance and a total disrespect for the best care of self and others. Sheryl has found that negative thoughts always float into our thought processes and may be as much as 75 percent of the thoughts we receive each day, but we have the ability to not engage or pay too much attention to that which would diminish us or someone else. When more people learn to love rather than hate, to give rather than take, the world ‘s energy will rise to a higher level of acceptance, gratitude and surrender to the best within ourselves stamping out racism of any kind.
Dr. Brenda Bowsers mentions at the beginning of her book two very special friends and colleagues and also the number eight as it relates to their journey. First, Brenda Dockery, APNP, MSN, RN, who was a trailblazer and trendsetter for advancing health and minimizing health disparities in the Black community. In 2015, Brenda was unexpectedly diagnosed with a rare cancer just a few weeks after her 60th birthday. Eight short weeks later she made her transition to heaven. An eternal void was left on earth that day.
Her second dedication is to Christine Hutchison, MS-HQS RN, who is the epitome of motherhood and warmth to all who encounter her. A 40-year veteran in the Catholic healthcare system, Chris retired in July2016 and was unexpectedly diagnosed with brain cancer during the holiday season later that year. Chris was always an eternal optimist. She fought diligently and kept a positive giving spirit all the way until the end. She would wake up out of her sleep and ask if she can do anything for anyone even from the point of unconsciousness. I’m sure she and Brenda have a heaven health clinic that offers eternal smiles and hugs to all who enter.
Both of these women have influenced my life as friends, colleagues, mentors, coaches, and soul-tied sisters. They both have made a difference in our world, one second at a time, one word at a time; and for both of them; one smile and hug at a time. From diagnosis to death was eight weeks for Brenda and eight months from diagnosis to death for Chris. Eight is the number of new beginnings that are born after divine completion. Enjoy the newness of your eternal lives my sisters, my confidants, my friends! You completed your work as World Changers and Difference Makers down here on earth. Now on to new galaxies and heights we have not yet seen but you have both now discovered. Brenda Dockery and Christine Hutchison, I love you both for eternity and beyond. The birth of this book and the mission of this movement is turning into a reality because each of you believed in me! Here’s to making you proud and to God be the Glory!
Dr. Brenda J Bowers, PhD, DNP, RN brings over 35 years of management and executive leadership development experience to her readers. She has been councilor and confidant to executives and leaders in organizations from small to multi-billion dollar enterprises.
As a senior executive vice president in one of the largest healthcare organizations in the country, she presided over the professional development of dozens of system presidents, administrative officers and executive leaders in an organization with more than twenty thousand employees. Most of her professional career has been in Christian ministry and healthcare leadership with some academia experience as well.
There are a few key tenets the book is built around. The first is the idea of “intelligence.” Intelligence is another fundamental element of the book’s framework. Self-intelligence and societal intelligence form the two worlds she has designed.
Similar to emotional intelligence (EQ) or an intelligence quotient (IQ), Dr. Bower propose that there is a mental quality that consists of the ability to learn from experience, adapt to new situations, understand and handle abstract concepts, and use knowledge to manipulate one’s environment (human intelligence as defined by the Encyclopedia Britannica) that can be applied to one’s personal life and in one’s life as a leader or contributor to society.
One should desire to have the highest self and societal intelligence level possible in order to have the greatest opportunity to continuously influence self and society alike. It is with this commitment that we can realistically, not just hypothetically or rhetorically, change ourselves and change the world.
The worlds are made up of spheres that influence that particular world’s intelligence and the characteristics, values, behaviors, attitudes, actions, and responses to its judgments. Collectively, these create a differentiating factor that ultimately determines the quality of our lives overall.
These three orbitals, if you will, are self-awareness as the nuclear core, followed by relationship management and authorial presence. They are accompanied by two additional elliptical fields. Organism knowledge becomes that fourth orbital within self-life intelligence world number one. Organism knowledge is how well we know our surroundings, how we maneuver through them, and our core capability to use the knowledge to generate understanding and wisdom from knowing we are a living organism not just a collection of inanimate organizations.
We can use experience to begin to make a world of difference. Dr. Bower writes, “So when I talk about “experience,” “experiencing the difference and “making a world of difference,” it is fair to ask for this idea and construct to also be defined. When we experience life, it simply means that we have practical contact with the observation of various facts or events we undergo during certain encounters. We find ourselves coming across something, coming in contact with something, coming up against something, and/or being faced with something. And this happens every second of every day of our lives.
Life itself is a culmination of seconds of experiences. But we often let these experiences and irrecoverable seconds pass by without giving credence or weight to their impact on the outcome of our day, a specific situation, or sadly in some cases, on our entire life.
Experiencing life should be palpable and visceral. It shouldn’t be something that feels inanimate or something that has no value. And it definitely should not be something that we’re hoping will pass by fleetingly as quickly as possible. But rather, we should embrace these contacts, observations, how we interact with facts, events, how we meet other people, come in contact with other people, come up against other situations, and how we face circumstances. These are all experiences.
Brenda describes the Seotak experience this way, “I thought I knew who I was, until one day I realized that I didn’t. I looked in the mirror and had no idea who or what was looking back at me. Interestingly enough, this has happened a number of times in my life. I wish I knew when I first experienced what I call a SEOTAK (See-Oh-Tack]- Self-Encounter of the Awareness Kind. Hold on to the SEOTAK concept and begin to incorporate it into all your life’s experiences. It’s one of the first ingredients in the secret sauce solution she offers to your current fears and frustrations. These ingredients will be bolded along the way and lead you to know yourself as the complete energetic and physical being you are but an awareness of that is the most important ingredient to living your best life and resolving fears, misjudgments and false realities.
We thank Dr. Brenda Bowers author or World Changers and Difference Makers for being an awakened soul heart based human being who seeks to live life in an expansive and honest manner sharing loving and being part of the community offering peace harmony and balance in a world that is besieged by so much anger and hatred.
In summarizing today’s episode of Healing From Within we have discussed the possibility that we begin to notice that difference is a point or a way in which we can tell something is not the same as something else. and is a distinguishing factor that extracts the uniqueness from the experience and records it in our being as distinct.
Understanding differences and similarities allows us to transform and to make a thorough, extreme, and dramatic change in form, appearance or character. We may create a new direction towards higher awareness consciousness and fix damaged emotional behaviors or attitudes improving the quality of life, health and happiness for a more evolved life journey.
We are indeed born as magnificent soul entities into the physical world equipped with everything we need to realize and utilize our excellence individually and collectively and to gather experiences, memories and dreams that enhance our soul essence leading to greater compassion and love.
We have also put our attention today on the instability of society at the present moment and all of the chasms and negative influences that must be turned into a positive direction. If we want to be heard, we must begin to carefully listen to another.
We do not have to agree but we should respect their right to their opinion and beliefs. We should not try to find common ground, compromise and live in peace and harmony beyond the friction and breakdown of society we are witnessing in the way of violent protests and damage to property and life.
Dr. Brenda Bowers and I agree that instead of judging experiences as good or bad just begin to see them as the building blocks of our spiritual soul life journey and neither good nor bad just as Dr. Bowers writes, “Life itself is a culmination of seconds of experiences. But we often let these experiences and irrecoverable seconds pass by without giving credence or weight to their impact on the outcome of our day, a specific situation, or sadly in some cases, on our entire life.
Experiencing life should be palpable and visceral. It shouldn’t be something that feels inanimate or something that has no value. And it definitely should not be something that we’re hoping will pass by fleetingly as quickly as possible. But rather, we should embrace these contacts, observations, how we interact with facts, events, how we meet other people, come in contact with other people, come up against other situations, and how we face circumstances. These are all experiences.”
Brenda and I would have you begin to consider transparency, openness, honest communication, and accountability as a means to improve relationships, families work situations and our world as we engage and interact with people with the intent to understand, learn, and collaboratively participate. Helping others becomes a more pervasive and natural process enhancing us all.