Hosted by Lesli Doares, LMFT
Happily Ever After is not just a mythical place somewhere over the rainbow. With attention and love you can bring that feeling to your relationship. Learning to communicate your real needs and desires as well as understanding your partners’ will help you foster the feeling of acceptance and contentment you’ve always dreamed of. It’s not just magic and chemistry but a way of thinking and behaving that lets you develop as equal partners. Join us on Happily Ever After for practical tips you can use right now in your daily communications, thought processes and decisions.
Dealing with challenging emotions is challenging for many people, but it can be especially difficult for men. It isn’t that they don’t have emotions. It’s just that they often don’t access them as easily as women can. This is a function of both culture and experience. But it has real world consequences for their marriages. It can be easier to let your wife deal with emotions in your relationship but that will prevent intimacy and connection.
Richard Matzkin, author of LOVING PROMISES: The Master Class For Creating Magnificent Relationship and MANifesto: A Call For Men To Become Warriors For Kindness, reveals why men need to experience the full range of emotions and how to begin to do that.
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Lesli Doares has had a life-long curiosity about what makes marriage work.
After professional study and a marriage nearing the quarter century mark, she has found some answers. Lesli is known as an expert in what makes relationships successful. Since 2002, couples and individuals have been coming to her to learn how to make their relationship dreams come true.
Pain of Divorce.
Lesli knows the pain of divorce. Her parents started to have marital difficulty when she was eight. After leaving home a few times, her father left for good when she was fifteen. They divorced when she was sixteen and both remarried within a month. Lesli was hurt and lost and no one seemed to really notice or care. She tried to find love and acceptance in her own romantic relationships but was unsuccessful for many years.
Through a series of seemingly random career choices, Lesli ended up becoming a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in 2004 and began a private practice. By this time she was happily married for almost twenty years to an incredibly supportive and accepting man and had two pre-teen children.
Her professional life changed forever when a five year old girl was brought to her office for treatment of anxiety. Her parents had divorced when she was two and had been using her as the rope in their ongoing tug-of-war. This little girl understood her job to be “taking care of her mother”. She could not do that and love her father at the same time. Her pain mirrored the pain Lesli felt when her own parents divorced.
At that moment, Lesli knew the only way to deal with the pain children of divorce feel was to make sure the divorce never occurred in the first place. It became clear that, if she was going to protect the children, she needed to start with their parents’ marriages. The pain of this little girl is in Lesli’s heart every day, inspiring her to do for others what Lesli was not able to do for her.
Lesli’s passion is for creating happy, successful marriages and reducing the chance of divorce. She is gifted at understanding and explaining the dynamics of relationships in a way that enables her clients to see the possibilities for their marriage, no matter how discouraged they are at first. Her clients say she is an angel in disguise. Lesli is approachable and open. Her clients feel listened to and understood as she honestly and gently challenges them to think about their relationship in a new and different way. One former client says that when she and her husband reach an impasse, she still asks herself, “What would Lesli say?”
Author and Relationship Consultant And Coach
Lesli is the author of Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage: How to Create Your Happily Ever After With More Intention, Less Work. In this book, she focuses on helping couples build strong, secure relationships using a simple five step approach to create their ideal marriage. She has studied with Michele Weiner Davis of Divorce Busting and is a sought after speaker and workshop leader.