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Conversations About Divorce

Mandy Walker

Conversations About Divorce – Should You Forgive Child Support Arrears?

Child support is often one of the most contentious and bitter areas of divorce negotiations and those disagreements can and do continue for years after the divorce is final.

We frequently hear complaints of child support going unpaid, and unenforced leaving the custodial parent struggling to provide for their child. At the other end of the spectrum we hear complaints and fears about the consequences for non-payment such as garnishment of wages, loss of driver’s license and professional licenses and imprisonment.

Just recently, following the shooting death of Walter Scott in South Carolina, his family argued that he ran from the police following a traffic stop because he was afraid he was going to get arrested for non-payment of child support, something that had happened to him some ten times before.

Joining Mandy for this episode is award-winning journalist Kimberly Seals Allers. Her article Forgiving $38,750 In Child Support, For My Kids’ Sake was recently published by the Motherlode Blog at The New York Times and received over 450 comments.
Mandy and Kimberly discuss:
  • How forgiving child support arrears could benefit your children
  • The alternative currencies for contributing child support
  • How to avoid arrears and the associated penalties, and
  • Why forgiving arrears could a key part of your divorce recovery

Kimberly Seals Allers is the author of The Mocha Manual series of books (HarperCollins) and founder of the award-winning pregnancy & parenting website, Kimberly’s next book is an exploration of the cultural and social influences on how mothers feed their babies, to be published by St. Martin’s Press next year. A divorced mom of two, Kimberly lives in Queens, New York. Follow her on Twitter @iamKSealsAllers and follow @MochaManual.

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