As Dr. Phil says, “Sometimes you make the right decision and sometimes you make the decision right.” After being together for a while, some people tell themselves that they didn’t marry the right person, they never really loved each other, so there is really no way to make it better. In other words, they made the wrong decision. What they don’t realize is that they may be focusing on the wrong thing. We tend to pay attention to things that bother us and overlook the positive aspects of our lives, including our partners and our marriages. A related phenomenon is, when we come to this conclusion, we put the burden on our partner and underestimate our own part in what we’re focusing on. About. com marriage expert Marni Feuerman is here to talk about how to take a more objective look at your relationship and how you can get your marriage back on track. Send your comments and show suggestions to Lesli and share the episode on Facebook and Twitter.