Conflict, like fighting, is a word that can be difficult to view as positive. Surprise! It can be. Change it to disagreement and it loses some of its power. Embrace it as a natural state between any two people (spouses included) and it becomes an opportunity to learn about each other. Mediator and author of The Science Advice Goddess column and the science-based book Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence Amy Alkon explains the simple process for success.

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