It’s commonly said that marriage should be 50/50. In my estimation, it should be 100/100. You each put in as much as you can. But what does that actually mean? I used to tell my kids that I would treat them equivalently, not equally. I think that’s a pretty good approach to marriage, too. And I’m not alone in my thinking. Dr. Glenn Geher, professor of psychology at the State University of New York at New Paltz explains why scorekeeping or only doing things to get something in return is not the best path to a happy marriage.

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