I often tell people that couples work is actually simultaneous individual work. It’s common to focus on what your partner is doing, but the only one you have control over is you. Looking within is often where the answers lie. The good news is that you don’t have to tackle this on your own. … [Read more...] about The Path to a Better Marriage
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Is it the Quantity or Quality of Intimacy that Matters?
Okay, trick question. For most of us, it’s both. Intimacy (and sex) is important in a romantic relationship. And it’s a concern in many marriages. Intimacy is a source of anxiety for far too many couples. Like many things, good sex and real intimacy are complicated. There are so many factors at play … [Read more...] about Is it the Quantity or Quality of Intimacy that Matters?
Happiness is a Side Benefit
Countless people think it’s their job to make their partners happy. While that is a wonderful concept, it’s impossible to do. You are responsible for your happiness. Your partner is responsible for theirs. But even focusing on happiness in that way is a treacherous path. The way to see things in a … [Read more...] about Happiness is a Side Benefit
Into Me You See
Many people jump to sex when they hear the word intimacy. If pressed, they may reluctantly include forms of affection. So you may be surprised to learn that there are actually ten different types of intimacy. Physical intimacy is just one kind, not the whole shebang. EMDR Certified … [Read more...] about Into Me You See
Dreading the Holiday Season? You don’t have to!
For many, this time of year can be really stressful. Instead of feeling joyous and full of good cheer, you may be feeling anxious instead. Oh, you might put a smile on your face and commit to following all the usual traditions, but you’re already exhausted by overwhelm. And overly focusing on making … [Read more...] about Dreading the Holiday Season? You don’t have to!
Love DOES Mean Saying “I’m Sorry”
I was in elementary school when both the book and the movie Love Story were released. It’s classic line, “Love means never having to say you’re sorry”, struck me as stupid even then. I do suspect that for many people it’s easier to say, “I love you”, than to say, “I am sorry”. And a healthy marriage … [Read more...] about Love DOES Mean Saying “I’m Sorry”
Are You and Your Marriage Sexually Healthy?
Intimacy is what most of us are looking for in our marriage. It is more than just physical, but how you interact physically is important. The challenge? Sex is everywhere, but good information about healthy sexuality is not. This makes creating real intimacy in your relationship difficult. But it … [Read more...] about Are You and Your Marriage Sexually Healthy?
What You Need to Know to Have an Intimately Healthy Marriage
People need touch—a hug, a snuggle, and, yes, sex—to be healthy. What should seem straight forward is often quite complicated. Stress, hormone levels, time and more, all play a role in how healthy and intimate your marriage is. Women’s Intimate Health Expert Dr. Carolyn DeLucia reveals … [Read more...] about What You Need to Know to Have an Intimately Healthy Marriage
The Question isn’t Whether to Change or Not, but How to Do It Successfully
You’ve asked your partner to do something different. Or, maybe, your partner has asked you to. The two of you might even agree that the change will help your relationship. You also agree to make the change and then, …. you find yourself doing the same old thing. No matter how inclined you are to … [Read more...] about The Question isn’t Whether to Change or Not, but How to Do It Successfully
How Much Sex is Enough?
Top things married couples fight about: money and sex. Rarely is it because there is an overabundance of either. And both topics are extremely personal. If one of you is unhappy with how often you are physically intimate, then your relationship has a problem. But how can you talk to your partner … [Read more...] about How Much Sex is Enough?