It screams at you from the checkout stand: How to Find Your Soulmate. You follow all the advice and believe you’ve found the one. But you still wake up some days wondering just who that person is lying next to you. They just don’t feel like your soulmate anymore. That’s because you believed the idea that intimacy and love are something someone else gives you. In reality, intimacy is an inside job. Thomas Gagliano, relationship coach and the author of Don’t Put Your Crap in Your Kid’s Diaper, talks with Lesli about how what you learned about love and intimacy growing up may be creating problems in your marriage. We love to hear your comments and suggestions. Please share the show on Facebook, Twitter, and follow the show on Clammr.